So you’re saying that “sit down and shut the fuck up, accepting whatever god/fate/the universe decreed you have and be happy about it, no matter what, or if you do fight against it be happy about the fact you have something to struggle against, as compared to having an easy life.” No.
Whatever merit is, I seemed to have lost it with my next door neighbor. One time I ordered worms for my worm farm and they got delivered to her by mistake. “Snakes!!!” she shouted! Then, she trusted me to babysit her dog with newborn puppies and one puppy died. It had some kind of epileptic fit and died. So now, evidently, I killed her puppy. Sending her snakes and killing her puppy has lost me merit points. Now, she won’t say “Hi” to me. ——- Oh well.
I tend to give people a chance at merit points. Most people don’t do things to lose merit points. Turning on me, cheating me, using me in a way that leaves me saying, “What the hell?” will lose points with me. Even then, I try to understand why they did what they did. Our yard and the next door neighbor’s yard had lost a lot of rocks and had bare spots. I ordered two tons of rocks for our yard and we raked them evenly in our yard. Now, the neighbor’s yard looks worse in comparison. I told Immortal Pirate that I would not be surprised if some of our new rocks end up covering bald spots in the neighbor’s yard. Humans being human, they may take the easy way out and steal rocks from our yard. I am just waiting to see if that happens. If they do that, they will lose a few merit points —- but no biggy. I will give them the phone number of the rock yard where we ordered our rocks from.
Merit is trust. You trust someone not to do you dirty.
I guess a group can have merit and win your trust, as long as they don’t try to cheat you, or do you wrong.