Yesterday, headlining Yahoo was Gwyneth Paltrow’s statement that she is in an “adult relationship” for the first time in her life. What do you make of this? Gwynnie went on to explain none of her other
Whenever they understand what that is and when they feel comfortable. I’m not even sure what “adult relationship” really means unless we are just talking about one that is more serious and requires more responsibility. I can’t say it is truly outdated if so many people want one and go through with it, but maybe we should reexamine what it means to be married? I fall somewhere between “not interested” and monogamy. I don’t think I could even entertain the idea of polyamory.
Is dating a pseudonym for having sex, or is it the courtship ritual that permits the participants to determine if there is potential for partnership?
Sex has to be a part of determining compatibility, because it just might be the greatest non verbal communication device to ascertain complete comparability. Not the only thing, but an important thing
So, dating should start as young as 5 if its about learning how to socialize and learning how to live in harmonic balance. You start simple and learn how to get along with many and eventually as you evolve through the process you learn to find that harmony with a single alternative entity. Pet’s can be thrown in as part of the learning process, but one must not go overboard in developing non verbal communication skills, especially if one likes chickens or sheep for pets.
An adult relationship is one where conflict is accepted as normal and the participants are mature enough to find equitable, consensual resolutions.
Marriage as a ritual yes. Outdated. But marriage as an institution? No. Marriage enables the establishment of synergy. The total is greater than the sum of the parts. If you can’t do that on earth, how the fuck can you do it in the ever after. Earth is practice in learning how to manage synergy.
Last question has shifted over time. I am 100% intentionally monogamous now and that has come from a palate that has been refined by experience. I KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that I have the best partner possible and far more than I deserve. For some strange reason, she seems to feel exactly the same way. It’s kinda adult. That is the recipe for a relationship that will never stop evolving and we all know if something isn’t growing; it’s dead.
When they are ready to marry and consummate said marriage.
what qualifiers are there for an “adult” relationship?
This most likely pertains to Gwyneth Paltrow’s comment, and I don’t really know what she meant.
is the institution of marriage outdated?
if monogamy and polyamory are on a spectrum, where do you fall?
There are only two ethically viable options. 1) Celibacy outside of marriage and 2) Monogamy within a marriage of two human beings of the opposite gender (with a scientific definition of gender being such that there are only two)