In my 619 class we are studying Erickson’s stages. He theorizes that in each stage of life we are trying to solve a crisis. In late adulthood we are trying to solve ego integrity versus despair. If in our late adulthood we find meaning in how we spent our lives and are satisfied, with few regrets, we have integrity. However If we look back on our life and feel as tho we have many regrets and did not accomplish what we desired to accomplish, this results in despair. Which one are you headed for?

As an aside, i think it’s interesting to point out that it’s possible we did not resolve an earlier crisis but this does not mean we can’t resolve later crisis. However the unresolved earlier crisis may always give us trouble throughout our lives.
Many people may be walking around with unresolved Crisis inside them. I find that rather sad.




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  1. griz 7 months ago

    Unresolved earlier crisis almost always does come back to limit and confound us.

    I find I have so few regrets that they are hardly worth mentioning; and put great value on integrity even as it extends beyond ego.

    I’m not sure if Erickson would praise that at such a young age, or boot me out as someone he could make little money diagnosing/treating!

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      Scarlett 7 months ago

      @griz are you suggesting that all the social sciences are bunk? in any case, no one knows for sure if there is something beyond the grave. if someone tells you they know a thing for absolute certainty, I really question that, as we , as humans are constantly learning new information. I see ego as a thing humans developed as mostly. survival mechanism that has gotten out of hand.
      I think Erickson was onto something. for example, he theorized the first crisis was trust versus mistrust. how many people do we meet who don’t trust the world? what protective factors could’ve been put in place to help the person successfully navigate that crisis.
      I don’t think anyone who has ever researched and developed a theory is only out to make a buck, maybe some want to contribute their ideas to a better functioning society. isn’t that similar to what you do on your truck driving adventures? meet people, and try to advance your ideas? ideas that you believe are life fulfilling?

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      • griz 7 months ago

        @Scarlett
        Many of the social sciences “political identity groups” are spinning off in troubling ideological directions. Which is not saying their original premise was bunk. Only that they are being deconstructively influenced right now.
        Logic and rational thought together with a clear a discernment as humanly possible enable one to not become just another ideologue of any one system. One should be able to acknowledge any wisdom there without holding an noncancelable subscription to their folly.

        My thought is that someone categorically insisting there is something beyond the physical grave is on the same shaky ground as someone categorically insisting that there is not! The best we can say is “no physical evidence”: and then either be content with that, or look for evidence, even if it might not be found in traditional places.

        I also think we are not learning anything new as a species because we are “stuck” on the very survival mechanism you mention. It’s the same mechanism that services “unconscious” animals (not conscious of self, of the ego).
        But we passed this milestone EONS ago. Allegedly!

        I see and acknowledge Erickson’s ideas and models. While individuals are gifted with insights INTO Truth, none in and of themselves IS Truth.

        Also something for consideration in that first crisis of trust vs mistrust, is the possibility that something a person has gained developmentally, CAN be taken from them by a toxic process. Are we seeing an epidemic of people who “never developed”, or who are in freefall response to an infecting body of deconstructionist ideologies? It can be very hard when coming across someone at the foot of a ladder if they never started climbing it . . . or did and simply slipped off.

        I REALLY don’t think that “protective factors put in place” are the key. For the same reason evidence clearly shows that over-use of “protective antibiotics” (including hand-santitizers) actually diminishes the ability of a body to protect itself from pathogens over time.
        Consider as prime evidence, the horrendous back-firing of “bully-proof zones” in schools. They’ve produced a generation of people so fragile . . . and unkind word on their screen can kill — and they run around on post-secondary campuses in mortal fear of “micro-aggressions”. (Now THIS is toxic!)

        I have no doubt that people have developed models, hypotheses and treatments of SINCERE desire to help. But even with advanced training and intelligence, one does not and cannot see all of the variables at work. (Which is resisted because it’s a blow to the ego). Consider all of the very well-trained people of gifted intelligence beyond what many can appreciate . . . who have been misled by various social ideologies over the years. (Some very brilliant intellectuals and philosophers jumped right into bed with both Fascism and Marxism — TRULY thinking they were being of great service to the species as a whole)

        I think the wise person sees what all the bandwagons are offering, without becoming a “religious zealot” of just one.

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  2. five2one 7 months ago

    So, interesting. …

    I have different crisises. Last week, i suffered what was initially misdiagnosed as food poisoning on sunday, but saturday i couldnt stop vomiting what turned out to be blood. (Looks like coffee grounds.)

    Had to have blood pumped out of my stomach, and didnt stop shitting blood till Wednesday. Was in ICU for two days and given 3 to 4 quarts. Was bleeding ulcer so felt like a gut shot for a week.

    So now i have survived water, going wo breath, and going wo blood.

    My crisis is, I find myself immortal… but not happy.

    I am 47 and can pass for 20s. Besides the above.

    I have no sexual desires, not much food desires, nothing physical really.

    So need to figure this out.

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      Scarlett 7 months ago

      @five2one thats terrible, do they know where the bleeding is coming from? this would fall under mallows hierarchy. until you feel physically safe again, you probably won’t be in a position to look at other crisis.

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      • five2one 7 months ago

        @Scarlett “thats terrible, do they know where the bleeding is coming from? this would fall under mallows hierarchy. until you feel physically safe again, you probably won’t be in a position to look at other crisis.”

        It is totally okay. Except my GF totally left me for dead. But, my face is so ugly, I am scared she never wants to see me again.

        Seven years thing. She swore. Because of her child.

        We shared a song, together, even ‘couting stars’. And a movie! “Tuck Everlasting”. I thought the whole “Wade Wilson” thing would be a remind. But, noooo.

        Anyway, sorry, joking. I have like no feelings for people.

        I did think the whole “Wade Wilson” thing would be a clue for someone, but they were like all “I did the role in ‘V'” thing. CIA, NSA, FBI, who cares, when you have “counting stars”.

        Sorry. I am mumbling nonsense

        I am fine. So, Sunday through Saturday, I went on false diagnosis this was “just” food poisoning. I hid my gut pain. And, I thought, “Hey ibuprofen usually works on this”. So I did. A lot. Saturday, I couldn’t stop vomting blood. So endoscope, draining blood from my stomach. I didn’t know coffee grounds look meant blood. Then, black poop, till Wednesday. How could I know that meant bleeding blood? Seriously.

        I am fine now. Who would have known? Ibuprofen actually creates this? So, I am totally drunk now.

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  3. ladybarbara 7 months ago

    My crisis is that I am “invisible” next to the overwhelming single man I cohabit with. He doesn’t have to be doing anything but standing by, behind me, and he becomes more important.
    I am a single women. Immortal Pirate is a single man. We live in the same house, but we are separate entities.
    We have separate auto insurance policies with the same insurance company. I get in an accident and need repairs to my car. The insurance company calls Immortal Pirate and assures HIM that they will cover the repairs to HIS TRUCK. His truck was not in an accident, nor did it need repairs. It took me getting very angry for them to notice that I, as a single woman, have my own policy that I made a claim on —— and my policy has nothing to do with Immortal Pirate and his own insurance policy. Am I invisible??? I had to go to their office and look them in the face with boogled out angry eyes, when they gave Immortal Pirate the check for repairs to my car on MY OWN insurance policy. How dare they treat me like a non-person. We made them give me that check and treat me like the separate entity that I am.

    I went to Home Depot to buy a security screen door. I stood at the order desk to order it and pay for it to be delivered and installed. When they were ready to install it, they called Immortal Pirate and I see that the paperwork is in HIS NAME only. Am I invisible??? I stood at the service desk and asked the clerk if he could see me. I know that my image reflects in a mirror —- so, can he see me? The door was paid for with my own Home Depot credit card. So why was the paperwork only in Immortal Pirate’s name? Am I invisible???

    I wanted to buy both of us iphones for Christmas. I told the sales clerk that I wanted the phone bill to be in my name only. My intent was not only to buy both phones, but to always be the one to pay the phone bills. Imagine my surprise when the phone bill came in Immortal Pirate’s name !!!! Once again, I am having to impress on Verizon that I am a separate entity and it was to be a Christmas gift that would be paid for by me year after year. Am I invisible???? My name was nowhere on the billing!!! I got it straitened out with them, but I hate being discounted as a non-entity

    Just because a man is standing near me when I purchase something does not mean that it should be in HIS NAME only. I have a right to be counted as a separate person. Yeah, it is an ego thing with me.

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      Scarlett 7 months ago

      @ladybarbara that is very strange. that sounds frustrating.I wonder if it is a sign of the state you live in. around here, if I go into a car dealership to have something small repaired, they always tell me something else needs work, but when I have taken a man, they don’t try to pull that.

      when you look back on your life, do you feel satisfied with how your life turned out thus fat, and you feel as tho it has been a good life?

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      • ladybarbara 7 months ago

        @Scarlett Yes, I have had a good life, although it has it’s ups and downs. Usually, I have a partner or husband and we are a marital unit. As such, we purchased things as a unit. I did not notice if I bought something and it went in BOTH of our names. Then, as a widow, everything was in my name. There was no other person. Maybe it is the state of Arizona. We walk in together and the attitude is that Immortal Pirate gets the attention and I am his little lady that he brought along.

        I have the same things happen at a mechanic’s garage. If I am alone. the mechanic finds about $1,000.00 worth of things to be fixed, but if I bring a man with me, the problem part gets fixed and there is no horsing around.

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