Is it hard or easy for you to begin a relationship? This refers to any kind of relationship, romantic, friendship, or otherwise?




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  1. Tits McGee 1 month ago

    ALL THE BEST RELATIONSHIPS ARE MEETINGS BY CHANCE.

    HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU THOUGHT ‘SHE’D BE GREAT WITH HIM’, THEN IT WAS A DISASTER AND YOUVE POSSIBLY LOST 2 FRIENDS.

    THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON (ALTHOUGH NOT ALWAYS KNOWN)

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    Scarlett2 1 month ago

    I feel like it get started with a bid and a response to that bid. A bid is a question, a look, a touch, a request, a statement, or anything that says I want to connect with you, but what is it that keeps it going? what makes some friendships or relationships flourish while others wither and depart? I think it could have to do with the emotional energy invested in this bidding process.

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  4. Yin 1 month ago

    Others almost always have to initiate. My oldest friendship started with them asking if I wanted to play with some Tonka trucks. My only romantic relationship started by her sending me a message on Myspace and she ended up kissing me first. I think this kind of connects to that other feeling I have with people. I don’t often ask people questions. I just figure if they want me to know they will tell me. I don’t initiate much of anything…

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      Scarlett2 1 month ago

      @Yin do you fear rejection?

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      • Yin 1 month ago

        @Scarlett2 I think part of me fears potential acceptance. I can be a bit picky with who I am happy to hang out with. I can tolerate some people that I am not happy to be around. I fear that if I try to connect first that I may come to regret that decision. When it comes to relationships, I just feel like it is better I be alone. I’ve come to realize that I’m such a self centered person, even if I don’t mean to be. I’d just rather not do that to someone. I’m not someone to try and force someone away, but I also don’t want to cause misery based on my initiation.

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  5. five2one 1 month ago

    A look…mutual eyes..

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  6. 2Thrash 1 month ago

    Easy I guess. I mean if there’s nothing there to begin with there’s no reason I try hard to pursue anything.

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      Scarlett2 1 month ago

      @2Thrash that sounds wise. There are times when I think I did try to force a relationship, but convincing myself there was something there because I thought the person was safe.

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  7. ladybarbara 1 month ago

    I tend to fall in place beside them and they respond. They have needs and I fill the needs. If it doesn’t work, I walk away. I am not a bad ex-girlfriend. I disappear in his life. I fade into the traffic around him and I am gone to him.

    I don’t waste my time, energy, or effort being a bitch. It is not worth it. I clear my life and prepare to be a clean slate for the next relationship. Mr. Right won’t give you a second look, if you are still being bitchy over the Mr. Wrong that got away. Let go and get on with life. Your next relationship will find you while you are living your life as a happy and whole being.

    So, a friend said he was perfect for me. I did not talk to him on Soul Pancake. The friend wanted us to meet. I avoided him. Then I answered him and he asked me for my phone number. I knew that giving him my phone number would result in him calling me in 2 weeks. That is the way guys are. They wait 2 weeks while you forget who they are. —– I gave him my phone number and he called me immediately. He asked me if I like sushi. Yes, I do! He lived 368 miles away!!! But, he called me everyday and played the banjo — and sang to me. He asked me to buy his house, which is a pretty odd request. He was such a fun person over the phone. He just fell into my life calling me every day. I had to meet him. He was working and I was retired. He had a house full of dogs and cats. I had a renter to take care of my cats. I felt he was worth the 368 mile drive to meet him. He was clever and interesting. He needed someone to help take care of the house. I fell in beside him and became the partner he needed. He was the partner I wanted. He was fun, interesting, and we get along. My life blended into his and his into mine. It works!!! So, I bought into half of the share of his house. Now we own together. I sold my California house and moved here. We balance each other. We just fell in beside each other. We met one another’s needs. Now, he was able to retire without worry about bills and we got the mortgage paid off. Now, life is fun for both of us. We may not get married. He is single and I am single. We are together because we choose to be together.

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