Read an article this morning about how men are affected. As a woman, I feel for the women that have come forward, and I feel like it is a step in good direction. I can also see that there will be false allegations at times, but I feel like that is true of any movement. I think it will make others more aware of their actions, and be a deterrent of assault on women.
Has the movement affected you in any way?
I asked my guy friend and he said he had a clear conscience on how he has, does, and continues to treat women, and therefore it has had no effect on him.




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  1. Yin 4 weeks ago

    In my personal life? No, not really. It has gotten me to be more conscious about what is and isn’t ok to say to people, but I was never one to say much to begin with. It may have helped for potential future interactions. I think there is a bit of “If I was in her position, I would love ‘A’, ‘B’, and ‘C'” but people fail to realize that they aren’t them and they may not like that. Some people are also ignorantly confident. Just so egotistical. It’s good to put a spotlight on that kind of issue. I think a lot people need to be taught and/or humbled in that regard. While I was quiet, I have had an ego similar to that before. My whole perspective on life changed though which led to gaining an understanding on the perspective of others and whatnot. When this movement started, it just made sense to me. You will obviously get those that will abuse it and lie or something, but those injustices I am willing to bet will not outweigh the injustices that have been happening to victims/survivors.

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      Scarlett2 4 weeks ago

      @Yin I like that! That is very good writing. I feel like that is how the more critical thinkers feel about it. Or at least, that is what I have noticed.

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  2. five2one 4 weeks ago

    As a male victim of sexual harassmant (I was 13), on the job…

    It is good, and necessary, and holy.

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  3. Tits McGee 4 weeks ago

    NONE

    I TREAT ALL PEOPLE THE WAY THEY WANT TO BE TREATED.

    THERE ARE ASSHOLES EVERYWHERE. THEY TEND TO MAKE THEMSELVES KNOWN IN A VERY LOUD WAY.

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    • five2one 4 weeks ago

      @Tits McGee YES TITS MCGEE< CUT THIS TREES DOWN

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  4. five2one 4 weeks ago

    no not really

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  5. ladybarbara 4 weeks ago

    The movement has not affected me in any way. Each girl and woman reacts in her own way and has her own unique reactions. I get upset to know that some women will lie and then I feel the guy is the victim in that case.

    As for myself, I was raped at 16 by a 16 year old boy. He beat me very savagely and I kept wishing he would stop beating me and strangling me. When the rape was happening, I kept thinking that it could feel good if he stopped choking me. After he was done, he got up and straightened his clothing. He went back to the skate floor and raced around the roller rink ignoring me. It was like he did not think he did anything wrong. I put my clothing back on and called my Mom to come take me home. Instead, she sent the man I wanted to marry in 2 years. He was Lowell Henry. He came to pick me up from the roller rink. I told him I was raped by my dancing partner. He told me that I was ruined now. I was no longer virgin — so, he no longer wanted to marry me. THAT was the thing that hurt me worse than the rape itself. Lowell Henry made me feel dirty, ruined, and ashamed. He said that no man would want me and I am ruined.

    Somehow, in those days following the rape, I put myself back together. I accepted that I was now ruined as a fact. I was not good enough. Lowell Henry married someone else. I was heartbroken. I reacted by trying to pretend it did not hurt me and I was a big girl —- heal the wound —- hide the scar. I held my hurt feelings inside and soon my dance partner became my best friend and I became sexually active with him and with other boys. I became callused and hardened. I was a mess inside and did not know it. I had one bad relationship after another.

    I was 40 years old when I became aware that I was a good woman. I had raised 5 children (only 2 were my own). I had lived a good life and I was a business woman. I faced Lowell Henry and proclaimed myself to be the perfect woman to be his 3rd wife and the stepmother for his 2 sons. He agreed and we got married when I was 45 and he was 51. I made my life worthy and whole again. I was a good stepmother to his sons. I took care of him right up to his death.

    The “me too” movement did not affect me, but I feel that each victim has to find their own way out of the dark place that puts us in. My dark place was feeling ruined and not worthy.

    In my strength as a grown woman, I had a chance to see the rapist be executed. I watched him die. I had his body cremated and I dumped the bag of his ashes in the sea. I got my closure. I went back to Lowell Henry and married him again. I healed all of my issues. I became confident and worthy.

    In my life, in my victim-hood, what Lowell Henry did and said to me had cut me deeper and hurt for longer than the battering rape did. So, I listen to a rape victim’s story and I am very careful with my words. Words can hurt. I watch and listen as she works out her own feelings. She has to know that she has the strength to overcome what was done to her.

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  6. luftballooneyegouge 4 weeks ago

    It’s not perfect. but it’s long overdue & it’s better than the Lorena Bobbitt solution.

    ….or is it?

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