Today in the news, a story that went viral about a child suspended from the bus twice for bullying behaviors. Her dad told her he wasn’t taking her to school, that she would have to walk. The school was five miles away and he followed her in his car. He later clarified he didn’t make her walk the whole five miles, but rather broke up the trip. Some parents agree with him while others say he is the “bully” now, and that this is child abuse behavior. What do you think? when does it cross the line?




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  1. ladybarbara 9 months ago

    The child needed to know the value of a bus ride to school —- as opposed to having to walk. Thus, you don’t give the child a ride. The only exception I would make is if there is a bridge with NO SIDEWALK at the edge and it would put my daughter in danger to pass over ( or under) that bridge. Since he followed his daughter in the car, I assume that it was to watch out for her safety, as she was learning how far the walk is.

    Learning how far the walk is and the value of a bus ride, might make the child think twice before bullying on the bus again.

    I can remember a 20 mile walk to the roller rink where I worked as a child. Mom’s house rule was that I had to cook her some dinner and do dishes before she would give me a ride to work. I tested it and did not fix dinner a few times. Knowing that I would not get a ride to work, I left a few hours early. The walk was horrid !!!! I learned it is easier just to fix Mom some dinner and wash the dishes — and get a ride. On my walk, Mom did not follow me in the car. She did not care what happened to me on the long walk. Her reasoning was, “You don’t care about your hard working Mom getting dinner, so then, why should I care about you?” I learned my lesson.

    I’m sure this child learned her lesson, too. But she learned it knowing that Daddy was watching out for her.

    That is not child abuse. That is teaching a child that there are consequences to her behavior and a bus ride is worth behaving yourself to earn the privilege of a ride.

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      Scarlett 9 months ago

      @ladybarbara yeah, even as a social worker, I don’t think this rises to the level of child abuse. I do think there are some on this site that will think the girl never should have been suspended from the bus and that other kids need to learn to “suck up” the bullying. That is not a thing I believe.

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  2. griz 8 months ago

    You don’t reward a child for getting themselves kicked off the bus. That’s perhaps more the abuse in teaching them the expectation that they will get a “free ride” if they repeatedly break the rules.

    That’s not just “devouring their competency”, it’s actively teaching them that anti-social (later criminal) activity will be rewarded.
    It’s far more a hatred against your child, than going to extreme lengths to teach them there are consequences to actions but even as they have to walk them out, you’ll be covering their back as best you can.

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