• @griz Whether “anti-feminist” is a black spot or not is entirely up to you. It isn’t to me. I have come across many anti-feminists on the interwebs. Some had valid concerns. I, for one, agree with a lot of them that men should have equal opportunity to custody of their kids.

    You are free to raise your concerns, but someone like me might attempt…[Read more]

  • So I watched the video. I didn’t see anything weird. He might not be the best with kids but it didn’t look like he had any criminal intent. He was just clumsy and awkward.

  • @griz
    (Hmm. This got kinda long. I hope it doesn’t come off as too much of a rant or anything)

    I have heard the “dirty, dangerous jobs” argument for anti-feminism quite a lot. The problem is, I have been both a janitor (dirty) and a night guard (dangerous). I CHOSE to do those jobs. I loved being a janitor. The difference is, if I try to apply…[Read more]

  • @Spitfire3dC How ironic… I was just about to say, “They could stop cat-calling on the streets”. When I complained about that once, one person told me to just suck it up and learn to take a compliment. Yeah… I don’t think a bark is a compliment. Also, the cat-callers sometimes get angry at me when I blatantly ignore their “compliments” – to add…[Read more]

  • @griz I don’t think most feminists are interested in that. Maybe a sub-population of young adult females who don’t yet fully understand how the world works, but real feminists aren’t about pushing men out of the way so that women have all the good stuff.

    Feminism is very much needed. On the one hand, there aren’t enough women in the sciences…[Read more]

  • @saintcharlie people who don’t want to spend ridiculous amounts of money on ipods, which are also basically mp3 players

  • @Gina Well, those are scam artists, and if you believe them, you will not feel one bit guilty about giving them your money. But I can imagine that you would feel terrible if you later find out what exactly they do with that money, and that it’s not worthwhile.

    Funny enough, in my own religion we have to each contribute whatever we can to our…[Read more]

  • @griz Sounds like my experience with the $30 MP3 player, that didn’t cater to my needs, but to capitalism and to making a quick buck off low quality stuff. I guess that’s why I feel bad about it, because, deep down, I know I’ve been kind of duped.

  • Just a musing I have every now and then.
    Things I feel guilty about:
    – buying a $30 MP3 player, realizing the sound is horrible, and then buying a $50 MP3 player that sounds much better
    – any other object I

    • Any footwear from Walmart!

      They just don’t get it that customers want footwear that keeps their feet dry (in the case of winter footwear) and outlasts at least one pair of shoelaces!

      My observation is that capitalism/commercialism pushes the spending of money to “get a feeling”. I spend money for things I need, or find good justification for wanting.

      The only “feeling” associated with it, is if I get inferior merchandise: the kind that is not designed to service the customer’s need, but just to get money out of their pocket.

      • @griz Walmart is all about cheap in more ways than one. I rather spend extra on a quality product that I don’t have to re-buy every year. I am wearing a pair of Merrel rain-boots right now that I can’t even remember when I bought them. It’s been more than a decade of hard wearing. I actually bought two pairs to switch on and off. They keep my feet warm and dry.

      • @griz Sounds like my experience with the $30 MP3 player, that didn’t cater to my needs, but to capitalism and to making a quick buck off low quality stuff. I guess that’s why I feel bad about it, because, deep down, I know I’ve been kind of duped.

        • @Georockstar09
          I find not enough people are vocal . . . in the right kind of way, with manufacturers who push crap. I rarely just let things like this pass without at least saying something. And I get the feeling that most people think it isn’t worth the bother.

          Not worth the bother to expend a bit of effort in a letter . . . which if any company got enough, would be forced by sheer economic fears to do something about it!??

          The skill, is in keeping emotion to an absolute minimum — which most people cannot do: because we are “groomed” to think emotions are the only way to get something done.

          But consider the company hocking cheap crapola that daily received 6 or more registered letters (a very small cost really, but something they have to “sign for” creating a paper-trail) voicing dissatisfaction, requesting correction/compensation under consequence of your “taking further steps as necessary”.
          Even if they blow it off, sheer volume of it will work against them psychologically, out of fear of losing their gravy-train (or with larger corporations, putting off their investors!).

    • I have never done this, but I believe a waste money is sending money to a televangelist. Definition of a Televangelist: An evangelical preacher who appears regularly on television to preach and appeal for funds. Every single one of these “preachers”, check out where they live and how they live. The people sending their hard earned money hardly have any, and the “preachers” are living like kings and queens.

      • @Gina Well, those are scam artists, and if you believe them, you will not feel one bit guilty about giving them your money. But I can imagine that you would feel terrible if you later find out what exactly they do with that money, and that it’s not worthwhile.

        Funny enough, in my own religion we have to each contribute whatever we can to our fund (only if you are Baha’i; if you aren’t, you’re not allowed to contribute). And sometimes I will begrudgingly donate $20 here and there. But then when I visit the Baha’i temples and shrines and see for myself what the money is used for, I’m like “whoa! I gotta contribute more!” (because in our case, the money doesn’t go to a person, it goes to various institutions for different projects, and not just temples, also conferences, and educational programs). And when I contribute that money, in the back of my mind I consider as though that money had never been mine in the first place, and I actually feel proud (because I know how the money is used, and that it’s put to much better use than Assassin’s Creed)

        So I guess an interesting difference from those televangelists is that in my own religion, we get to touch and feel and see the fruits of our donations, and we get ten times more out of it than what we put in, whether it’s a beautiful decoration honoring God, or a conference where we all get together and get inspired to eliminate racial prejudices from our own neighborhoods (e.g.).

        So in that case it’s a system that works. There have been individual “Baha’is” who stole from the fund, but they get into deep, deep trouble with the law :smile:

      • @Gina
        They are abusing an Old Testament concept that one shouldn’t “muzzle the ox while it’s treading out grain”. Let it feed while it works.
        There’s the concept that those who have given up secular work to pursue spiritual (vs religious!) paths, should not suffer for it . . . providing they are doing it in service to others and not just themselves.

        But human nature ups this from “adequately fed” to “lavishly fed”. Which BTW, is “enabled” by everyone who over-feeds them! To say they are wrong in doing it without recognizing everyone enabling them to do it, only addresses part of the issue.

    • I just knew that I would have another partner in life and I spent about $3,000.00 for top of the line cookware with high grade oxide coating on the outside and high grade non-stick coating on the inside. I just knew that I would show off my cooking talents. I wanted to show off my cooking talents by cooking in these pans. For 7 years, I insisted that my new pots and pans NOT BE USED by myself, nor my roommate. Instead, we used the cheaper non-stick pans. I would often dream of the day that I would be able to use my new pans.

      Then I met him — Immortal Pirate. He doesn’t like non-stick cookware. He was using cast iron. I purchased the latest fad non-stick and some stainless steel pans, because I don’t like the heavy cast iron. So, bit by bit, I trickled in cheap grocery-store pans into his kitchen.

      I had his kitchen in Arizona and then go home to my California house with the high quality pots and pans that I still would not use. I was saving them for someday when we could live together. Then the day came that I sold my house and had to pack my things and move to Arizona. There was no room for my high quality cookware —— $3,000.00 WASTED!!! I gave the cookware to my roommate and she gave it to her kids. I was heartsick at having to give it away. What a waste of money.

    • a waste of money is Christmas decorations from Amazon. I ordered a few things lately and none of them were like the photo, and one of them was broken.

      I spend a lot of money on books and dresses, and I don’t feel a bit guilty doing it.

      I spend money on therapy and dancing lessons and both of these endeavors are worth every cent.

      • @Scarlett
        If that is actually your picture, I would say that money spent on dresses is not a waste! I don’t want to “object-ify” women, but there’s something about a beautifully -dressed woman that is just such a gift to any environment. (But then there’s also something special about a woman in work-clothes, doing the same rough job as a man! There’s just something special about a woman, being a woman — and all this entails!)

        Likewise with money spent on personal/artistic development that allows us to be there, be centred, be functional for others. Recreation (re-creation) is necessary for us all. Without it, we become empty, un-real, uncentred, increasingly non-functional.

    • Battery operated James Brown dancing and singing toys.

      Things I don’t feel guilty about; Signed sports memorabilia. I should, but Gollum comes out in me when I touch a bat, or a ball, or a hockey stick or a puck that I know was touched by an athlete I respect for their skills. I do fight the urge though. I once got ripped off buying a counterfeit bat from a reputable company. I kept it and look at it whenever the temptation arises now.

      • @Spitfire3dC
        And here I thought I was dreaming last time I stayed over and I thought I over-heard someone purring, “My preciousssss!” from the basement!

    • Who still uses MP3 players?

      • @saintcharlie people who don’t want to spend ridiculous amounts of money on ipods, which are also basically mp3 players

        • @Georockstar09 My son bought me an MP3 player about 7 years ago. He told me that I could download what I like to hear into it. ——- He meant for me to download music. What I like to hear is talk radio programs. Handel On The Law, Rush Limbaugh, and Coast to Coast are what I like to hear. However, you hear the program once and you don’t want to hear it again. How many times can anyone stand to hear Rush Limbaugh rant???? I don’t like music and I would not want to have something that plays music of any sort. Sooooo, I gave the MP3 player to my roommate, Vivi. Vivi enjoyed it. That way, it was not wasted money. Then my son said that if he wanted to buy Vivi a gift, he would have bought Vivi the MP3 player. My son has not bought me any presents after that. He doesn’t want to waste money on someone who gives his gifts away.

  • Women give birth and breast-feed, men make women pregnant. Other than that, nothing much different in their roles except whatever has to do with the first years of an infant.

    I don’t get why so many folks are against raising children gender-neutral. My parents did, and I think it’s one of the best things they did for me. I had the sickest…[Read more]

  • It depends on the demographic. Some people tend to have their bearings straight, but a lot of people seem to attach their worth on how much they can attract the opposite sex.

    I have known of other people’s relationships, even married couples, turning… icky, because of too much sexuality, like “lack of satisfaction” because the other doesn’t…[Read more]

  • Let’s see… In Romania we started that around high school (we weren’t doin’ it at 11-14 anyway, we were preoccupied with other things). At 13 there was a person from Always that came to our school to explain how maxi pads work. I don’t know what the guys did. Yeah, it was advertising, but it was sex ed, and we learned about how both boys and…[Read more]

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