• @ladybarbara that is very strange. that sounds frustrating.I wonder if it is a sign of the state you live in. around here, if I go into a car dealership to have something small repaired, they always tell me something else needs work, but when I have taken a man, they don’t try to pull that.

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  • @five2one thats terrible, do they know where the bleeding is coming from? this would fall under mallows hierarchy. until you feel physically safe again, you probably won’t be in a position to look at other crisis.

  • @griz are you suggesting that all the social sciences are bunk? in any case, no one knows for sure if there is something beyond the grave. if someone tells you they know a thing for absolute certainty, I really question that, as we , as humans are constantly learning new information. I see ego as a thing humans developed as mostly. survival…[Read more]

  • In my 619 class we are studying Erickson’s stages. He theorizes that in each stage of life we are trying to solve a crisis. In late adulthood we are trying to solve ego integrity versus despair. If in our late a

    • Unresolved earlier crisis almost always does come back to limit and confound us.

      I find I have so few regrets that they are hardly worth mentioning; and put great value on integrity even as it extends beyond ego.

      I’m not sure if Erickson would praise that at such a young age, or boot me out as someone he could make little money diagnosing/treating!

      • @griz are you suggesting that all the social sciences are bunk? in any case, no one knows for sure if there is something beyond the grave. if someone tells you they know a thing for absolute certainty, I really question that, as we , as humans are constantly learning new information. I see ego as a thing humans developed as mostly. survival mechanism that has gotten out of hand.
        I think Erickson was onto something. for example, he theorized the first crisis was trust versus mistrust. how many people do we meet who don’t trust the world? what protective factors could’ve been put in place to help the person successfully navigate that crisis.
        I don’t think anyone who has ever researched and developed a theory is only out to make a buck, maybe some want to contribute their ideas to a better functioning society. isn’t that similar to what you do on your truck driving adventures? meet people, and try to advance your ideas? ideas that you believe are life fulfilling?

    • So, interesting. …

      I have different crisises. Last week, i suffered what was initially misdiagnosed as food poisoning on sunday, but saturday i couldnt stop vomiting what turned out to be blood. (Looks like coffee grounds.)

      Had to have blood pumped out of my stomach, and didnt stop shitting blood till Wednesday. Was in ICU for two days and given 3 to 4 quarts. Was bleeding ulcer so felt like a gut shot for a week.

      So now i have survived water, going wo breath, and going wo blood.

      My crisis is, I find myself immortal… but not happy.

      I am 47 and can pass for 20s. Besides the above.

      I have no sexual desires, not much food desires, nothing physical really.

      So need to figure this out.

      • @five2one thats terrible, do they know where the bleeding is coming from? this would fall under mallows hierarchy. until you feel physically safe again, you probably won’t be in a position to look at other crisis.

    • My crisis is that I am “invisible” next to the overwhelming single man I cohabit with. He doesn’t have to be doing anything but standing by, behind me, and he becomes more important.
      I am a single women. Immortal Pirate is a single man. We live in the same house, but we are separate entities.
      We have separate auto insurance policies with the same insurance company. I get in an accident and need repairs to my car. The insurance company calls Immortal Pirate and assures HIM that they will cover the repairs to HIS TRUCK. His truck was not in an accident, nor did it need repairs. It took me getting very angry for them to notice that I, as a single woman, have my own policy that I made a claim on —— and my policy has nothing to do with Immortal Pirate and his own insurance policy. Am I invisible??? I had to go to their office and look them in the face with boogled out angry eyes, when they gave Immortal Pirate the check for repairs to my car on MY OWN insurance policy. How dare they treat me like a non-person. We made them give me that check and treat me like the separate entity that I am.

      I went to Home Depot to buy a security screen door. I stood at the order desk to order it and pay for it to be delivered and installed. When they were ready to install it, they called Immortal Pirate and I see that the paperwork is in HIS NAME only. Am I invisible??? I stood at the service desk and asked the clerk if he could see me. I know that my image reflects in a mirror —- so, can he see me? The door was paid for with my own Home Depot credit card. So why was the paperwork only in Immortal Pirate’s name? Am I invisible???

      I wanted to buy both of us iphones for Christmas. I told the sales clerk that I wanted the phone bill to be in my name only. My intent was not only to buy both phones, but to always be the one to pay the phone bills. Imagine my surprise when the phone bill came in Immortal Pirate’s name !!!! Once again, I am having to impress on Verizon that I am a separate entity and it was to be a Christmas gift that would be paid for by me year after year. Am I invisible???? My name was nowhere on the billing!!! I got it straitened out with them, but I hate being discounted as a non-entity

      Just because a man is standing near me when I purchase something does not mean that it should be in HIS NAME only. I have a right to be counted as a separate person. Yeah, it is an ego thing with me.

      • @ladybarbara that is very strange. that sounds frustrating.I wonder if it is a sign of the state you live in. around here, if I go into a car dealership to have something small repaired, they always tell me something else needs work, but when I have taken a man, they don’t try to pull that.

        when you look back on your life, do you feel satisfied with how your life turned out thus fat, and you feel as tho it has been a good life?

  • @Spitfire3dC I’m on board with healthy living. Why in bed? Did you have flu? The flu has been awful this year. I have been around a lot of people that had the flu, but I haven’t gotten it yet. I have been taking two vitamin c’s every day during flu season

  • @BelleMadre old people are the sweetest!

  • @Spitfire3dC True on the forward momentum, but don’t even get me started on why aunt Jemima still exists

  • what was your high yesterday? I had three.
    First, we started the day with a convo about life and beliefs. It got me thinking about the Big Bang, and how I am energy from that. I am soot dancing in the flame. I am

    • my highs and lows came at work. they usually do :D one of the residents called me Ducky, which is eastern canadian speak for Girl really, but in an affectionate way. it made me smile. the other day he called me Sparky though :D but that makes me smile too. thats me Sparky !my low was probably just watching tensions grow between a couple of coworkers. as i backed away slowly out of the room lol

    • my high was getting back on my FitBit track.

      I was really out of it last week with three days in bed and then multiple more struggling to feel normal.

      Previous to that experience I had about three weeks in a row where I hit 4 key targets every day. Yesterday was my first time in about a week where I hit the four targets and it gives me a starting point for another potential run.

      It’s a bit of a fad, but it’s fun to feel like accomplishment goes with the effort. Been enjoying the interaction as we share and compete with each other.

      • @Spitfire3dC I’m on board with healthy living. Why in bed? Did you have flu? The flu has been awful this year. I have been around a lot of people that had the flu, but I haven’t gotten it yet. I have been taking two vitamin c’s every day during flu season

    • All of my lows came as a function of work.

      All of my highs came as I refused to let them define the past month.

    • I am Dreamer of Hearts, so get my highs defining and seeing other’s hearts. ie, praise for coworkers, via trying to see them. And here, and elsewhere, as well.

      This day, is affected/effected by past week. Spent two days in ICU, bled over a bucket of blood via shat, vomiting, and endoscopy draining because of a badly bleeding ulcer which was initially misdiagnosed as food poisoning and lower intestinal issue. Back to normal now. Only missed two days of work.

      So, typically immortality fun. Been slowly reconstructing my own heart, seeing myself, via others finally seeing me.

      Had good work meet with boss, last meet was bad enough I drew out my big black wings to fly away. But cancelled that.

      Lotsa fun management of what people I speak to think.

      Appreciating that perk of being the dreamer of hearts, lol.

      Thank God I don’t have to do this with many.

    • All these nice stories and I come in with playing a new video game and highly enjoying seeing references from another game in it. Seems about right though, lol.

    • I asked Immortal Pirate to change the pedestal of our bed, so that it will fit our new mattress better. I said that I did not care, even if he went with the 1970’s style of putting it up on cement blocks and boards. I wanted the board under the mattress to fit right. When your mattress is a Temperpedic “cloud”, you want to have it supported with a good platform pedestal.

      We went to Home Depot and I bought all the wood and hardware. From the look of the wood on the cart, I did not expect much.

      I went to have my taxes done at H&R Block. The good news was that I did not owe as much as I thought I would. That was high #1.

      When I got home, Immortal Pirate had most of the bed pedestal built — and it was so nice that it looks like it was bought from a furniture store. I keep forgetting that a man who builds a Pirate Ship for our dining room, and makes really nice guitars, is going to make a nice looking piece of furniture to go in our bedroom. It has storage under the pedestal frame. That was high #2.

      Then, a few hours ago, we went to a furniture store and bought night stands that match the bed Immortal Pirate made. So now, I am on high #3. Our bedroom got a really nice make-over, with plenty of good looking storage space.

    • Seeing this article of photos Of Black Kids Watching ‘Black Panther’ Highlight Why This Film Was Needed, and it made my day.

      https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/these-photos-of-black-kids-watching-black-panther-highlight-need-for-this-film_us_5a8ee853e4b005bb0fef340e

    • …and getting out in nature. Worked from home yesterday because the hill to get to work was too icy. Ended up taking a walk by a river at lunch. Nature recharges me.

      Keeping yourself healthy. That is good. Your kids need you.

    • Lady Barbara made home made soup from all the left-overs from the Ono Hawaiian Barbecue she bought the other day for our dinner. She put gluten free rice noodles in the soup too. With each re-heating the soup gets better and better. I think I’ll have some right now.

  • Was reading a life hack about putting a lazy Susan in the fridge and it made me think about sexism in common household items. Why is it that mr clean and mr coffee get addressed with respect, while Susan is called lazy?

    • It’s likely going to take a long time to turn the tide on phrasing that has a foundation in a patriarchal society where the roots placed physical strength above mental.

      However, trends illustrating we are heading towards equalization. Not that consistently, but at least there is a growing awareness. As long as we are headed in the right direction, that’s about the most we can expect.

      • @Spitfire3dC True on the forward momentum, but don’t even get me started on why aunt Jemima still exists

        • @Scarlett
          Because the people who do most of the shopping (women) keep buying it because it’s a good product. This could change in a heart-beat, if the prevailing “power-group” wanted it to.
          But does it need to change? Are we really this fragile in our emotions?

          Identity-group politics CAN be poured on almost everything should we wish it. But a quality syrup tastes a lot better on pancakes! (And just try to get your kids to eat pancakes with identity-group politics poured all over them!)

          Consider well that society will crumble if our best efforts are put towards utterly erasing everything that anyone now or in the future might possibly find reason to generate offense (oppression) at. This is a classic Marxism power-game — coming as Marxism did, touting social fairness and an equalizing of of the power-imbalances that resulted in oppression AND kept the Utopia from arriving.

          Be wary of neo-Marxism. It’s made horrendous inroads into our society — and has the most horrendous of track-records in the entire history of our species.

      • @Spitfire3dC
        It’s good to remember that in many ways the “patriarchal society” was there as a service to the “matriarchal society” that was heavily tasked with perpetuation of the species in a time when medical science was not at today’s levels. It was simply the most sustainable and stable model over time — a model proven effective by 350 million years of evolution, and the 200,000 years that humans have been around.

        Is it time for it to change? Perhaps.
        But we need to think long and hard before throwing out a system that has proven workable for so long . . . for one with absolutely no evidence for it’s benefits; and more than a few historical analogies that the wise would find extreme caution in.

        A lot of things that post-modernism tries to re-frame as vile oppressions were in reality, a lot more innocuous than “identity group politics” tries to paint them as.

        Dumbwaiters are not insulting of a profession . . . unless one REALLY NEEDS an oppression trigger to ride into a power-battle on.
        And a “dutch date” or “dutch fit” can just as easily be a celebration of practical exercise . . . as an evil oppression of a race.

        It totally depends what one “needs” to empower the ideologies one is relying upon to deliver themselves from the evil forces of the oppressor whom they feel currently holds all the power over them.

        (But then as they gain power over the oppressors, does that not make them the new oppressors? This is why neo-Marxism — or anything to do with Marxism — has proven neither stable nor sustainable beyond 1 cycle.

    • griz replied 3 days ago

      A part of post-modernism is that one can find ways to generate “empowering victimhood/oppression” . . . wherever one chooses; raising an army of “evil oppressors” in one’s own mind which one is then justified (even tasked) in dedicating their life to battling by any and all means necessary. (Not excluding reverse-oppression — which would make the “new oppressors” the evil that needs to be battled by any and all means? Right?? It’s a downward spiral.)
      Gender-based “types” can and do exist, without being sexist. Ask yourself why is “Nature” a “mother”, why almost every language have the word “compete” as a masculine intransitive verb, and “the patriarchy” (an ineffective construct BTW), always a despotic oppressor?

      Part of the post-modern ideology that feminism tries to garner much of its power from totally overlooks the other side of the “evil despot” archetype (the wise leader) — making it many ways a movement of ingratitude for the benefits that have come from the structure of human society over the past 200 thousand years.

      I would invite you to consider this clip

      “Is the AC sexist?”
      It’s core ethos is to create a hierarchy of “oppressed vs oppressor” (a form of Marxism), and then totally ignoring some very logical reasons for the situation that have so very little to do with one “identity group” trying to oppress and victimize another.
      But if the AC is then set higher to cater to an oppressed identity group . . . would that not make it a “sexist oppression” of another identity group that tends to dress more for function than fashion and that tends to do more of the physical labour in a workplace?

      These “constructs of oppression” just don’t work.

      BTW, I get to see a very lot of practical and intelligent women in my line of work who either dress more warmly . . . or put a little electric heater under their desk — paid for by the company.
      “Evil oppression” averted!

    • Well, recall there is much derogatory about men, too. Well deserved in that case. Like being dominating, a dick, etc. Not much is praiseworthy in the male sexual psycho desires.

      Mother nature… is mother nature…

      Not denying the shaft that women get, but the problem is men.

      Ultimately, I think humankind needs to become celibate, and be spiritual beings, rather then operate as animals. Of which, women are divine and not animalistic, but men are. (As women form human beings, men are just ink.)

      I dare say. Controversially.

      • @five2one
        Part of free speech and expressing our ideas publically so they can be attacked is so we can draw upon everyone’s view and hopefully hash out solutions to our greatest problems-of-the-day . . . as we have been doing for generations, before political correctness came in to try to police our thoughts!

        There is a quintessential male archetype — extending from the domineering tyrant to the wise ruler. Feminism has very successfully supplanted on top of this the full archetype, a fear of just 1/2 of it that in order to justify their actions. . . which of necessity then HAS to totally overlook and dismiss the other 1/2 .

        It would be like a reciprocal ideology that focuses just on fear of the “wicked witch” while nuking the “nurturing mother” totally out of the picture. The problem is NOT men. Nor is it women.
        It’s when we start playing neo-Marxist games of the saintly oppressed and the vile wicked oppressor. (Which are only good for 1 cycle, until the saintly oppressed gain sufficient power to become the wicked oppressors!

        • @griz I watch from afar. I am not a man, not of Adam. I am before Adam had Eve removed from his self.

          So, i have Eve still in me. Adam and his children are different from us.

          I snuck in with a really, really good cover story.

          Previous to this I just had come in the flesh as Jim Morrison.

          Faked my own death and poof grew up among you Adam and Eves all over again.

          Not Jesus, not Satan, not Michael, not an Angel…

          But I sure know the time.

          I have a helper, she takes a simulitude of female form, as I take of male form. I am male, but like Adam before Eve.

          But who can believe it, even if all the sons of God have this manner of form? Heavenly beings can and do, but not sons and daughters of Adam.

          The stars fall… early in Revelation. When do the saints judge the angels? Even they do not know.

          One third lost.

          Three fourths doing just fine.

          Anyway such debates are just signs of the times. There is no longer reason for sex in the world thar has landed. Incognito.

          Easier to believe in aliens, than us.

          (“Us” I am no angel, but still of the same kind as angels incarnate.)

          When there is no more sex, there can be still wives and husbands… but no more lie of the garden…

          Stories parents tell their kids.

          Like Santa Claus.

          Ho ho ho.

          • @five2one

            Sometimes it’s good to just say what you think, but not before thinking about what you say!

            Ie, intent and purpose . . . in what Spirit. Is it love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control? Or just a desire to gain dominance and power over another for the glory of our flesh?

            • @griz “Sometimes it’s good to just say what you think, but not before thinking about what you say!

              Ie, intent and purpose . . . in what Spirit. Is it love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control? Or just a desire to gain dominance and power over another for the glory of our flesh?”

              I obviously thought out what I said before I said it.

              I have no desire to be pretentious for anyone here.

              A very reason I could bemoan some intelligence experience here, for instance, is because I could trivially play myself down so no one would go and try and sell some secrets. Even if they did, I made it so they could be laughed away.

              Otherwise, your scattershot comment does not make any sense to me, so I think, yet again, what I said flew over your head.

              Sounds like a product of some ego wound I probably made in you some time.

              Not my intention, per se, but more God, less ego is a wise suggestion for you.

    • You made me look around my house for something named after a woman.

      Nope. I see a Mr. Coffee as our go-to if the Keurig fails us. Mr. Clean and Mr. Clean magic eraser sponges are there when my other product choices fail the job. I want strength in my cleaning products. Tidy Bowl does a wimpy job, but Kaboom Bowl Blaster sounds strong and works strong. Scrubbing Bubbles does a wimpy job on the shower and tub, but Kaboom sounds strong and works so much better. I threw away my Lime Away when I discovered Kaboom. I look for strength. Men are strong. Long gone are Josephine the Plumber when you can get a drain blaster!!! I look for blasting and kabooming dirt away.

  • @five2one Maybe we are both, like a baseball team. Maybe we are one and separate.

  • @Gina yes, human, indeed we are, but what does it mean to be human. What exist outside the story world. Is there something more to knowing what we really are….

  • @Spitfire3dC it is possible that we are a conduit through which the thoughts pass.

    Why do humans take ownership of so much? Land? Thoughts? It’s possible that thoughts are simply thoughts. When the wind passes through the tree, is it the tree’s wind?

  • Why can’t thoughts and feelings emerge? Why does there have to be an “I” involved? Why do humans take ownership of something that may be a naturally occurring phenomen? Is it possibly thoughts are simply thoug

    • My name is William, but I normally go by “Drew”.

      William Copley.

      This is me:
      https://www.linkedin.com/in/williamcopley/

      I took that pic when I was 46, now I am 47 and still can pass for 30.

      Why I?

      Because, “Drew” backwards is Werd.

      I am the Werd of God.

      But, I am also the – insert an i here somewhere – the Weird of God.

      I prefer the term “alien” for my work.

      ….

      I do alien work, anyone can see, from my linkedin.

      :rolf: :rolf:

      • @five2one Maybe we are both, like a baseball team. Maybe we are one and separate.

        • @Scarlett
          Morena Baccarin is my gf. (From V , “We come in peace”

          Dymphna-Marie Crowley (Copley) (Cop-lee) is my wife. Means Bitter Patron Saint of the Insane, or Wished for Patron Saint of the Insane.

          Catherine (last name deleted) & Angel (last name redacted), are my current gfs. More like BFFs, like my wife. No sex, and little flirting. Just BFF. I have sex with my wife sometimes, but not what makes our lives heaven on earth.

          What makes our lives heaven on earth is I have hardly any work to do, and so does my 18 year old and 14 year old. We just stay at home, watch tv and movies, and play video games. The hard life.

          Everyone one immortal is related to me, be they human or angels. So, we both could be the word of God. But, there is lesser and more true. Being the word of God is a tremendous burden, literally.

          I can take it, my angel can take it.

          My angel is Michael in the sky, Gabriel on earth. So, my father, but also not my father (like what people think).

          He has my name on him.

          People … sons, daughters, spouses share the same name. Even if it is the last name.

          What then does their name mean, really? And the name that matters is their most secret name.

    • Hello there. Welcome back.

      I am not sure I understand the question.

      Where would me be without I?

      I am human
      And I need to be loved
      Just like everybody else does

      • @Gina yes, human, indeed we are, but what does it mean to be human. What exist outside the story world. Is there something more to knowing what we really are….

        • @Scarlett I don’t have a clue, nor…not to sound mean; I don’t have any curiosity of knowing what is beyond. I spend more time trying to figure out what make people tick, what makes them do what they do; and how to inspire them to do better…including myself.

    • I think the “I” exists based on relativity. Everything is relative and the “I” is the foundation associated with our overall consciousness.

      All of us “I’s” have unique experiences that shape our perspective. That perspective is fluid as long as we continue to expose ourselves to the perspectives of others.

      Can thought be independent? I’m not sure it can be. if it is retained; it is owned and when it is released, the energy of it interacts and becomes something new.

      Do you have a thought that you think can exist independently?

      • @Spitfire3dC it is possible that we are a conduit through which the thoughts pass.

        Why do humans take ownership of so much? Land? Thoughts? It’s possible that thoughts are simply thoughts. When the wind passes through the tree, is it the tree’s wind?

        • @Scarlett I like thinking about that concept of being a conduit, but then I think that particular response becomes a thought originated within myself in response to the stimuli influenced by you. Relativity, yet again.

          I think we take ownership, because we may thing we ARE our thoughts. Without thoughts; we are rocks….that’s assuming that rocks have no thoughts, which I can’t really prove. Humanity has this distinct need it would appear to feel independent of the Overall.

          Our thoughts can influence others, we can motivate emotional responses from anger to bliss. I think that might be the determining factor that suggests thoughts need a source and that source is us.

          I think consciousness is a big thing here. How do we know that a tree is not intangibly influenced by the wind? And to perhaps to what degree? I have seen trees that grow bent from the wind. It has been tangibly influenced by it, so why not in some unseen way as well?

          Bottom line; humans take ownership, I think, because of this inexplicable thing called Consciousness.

          • @Spitfire3dC
            A wise native fellow I once knew used to say “Go ask the rocks” when someone asked him a question about patience, strength, endurance etc!
            He was also known to say “Go ask the trees”! We have this arrogance of self, as if we are the absolute hottest shit going and everything that is not exactly like us, should be. And if it will not be, it is unimportant.

            Another teacher used to say that thoughts are energy, and energy can affect energy: then expand this to remind us that solid matter is simply energy tightly bound.

            But our thoughts and the energy thereof, can and does affect the energy in others. And in animals.

            I think we take ownership . . . because this is part of what God intended for us: to “take dominion”. Only we misinterpret this and rather than owning our ego, our ego has us thinking that we are the ones who need to own everything else (and not be distracted/bothered with learning how to first take dominion over ourselves!).

            Consider for a moment the huge glut of social movements that assert that everything HAS to come under the dominion/ownership of our ego — which includes OUR individual thoughts and feelings. (Everything except first and foremost, our own ego!)

    • Savor the ‘I’ we get to experience, for future gens may not.

    • In a word, ego. I see a lot of tie-in to what in New Testament times, was called “the flesh”. As in “the flesh opposes the Spirit” . . . and one only touches the Spirit of God when the flesh (the ego) is controlled and willed to be silent.

      Otherwise one gets the aberration of the flesh masquerading as “the Spirit”; where people say that “God” told them to do this or that horrendous anti-Life (Godless) thing.

      Ego is not without purpose. The same as a vexing math problem has a purpose: to learn how to master it.

  • @Spitfire3dC I believe there is value in exploring a meaning based existence, rather than a fear based existence.

  • @Gina that’s smart. We are part of the all and are leaving a footprint

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