• @Spitfire3dC thank you for your thoughtful and well-put response. Atlanta is indeed a beautiful city. Sadly, there is a lot of homelessness in downtown Atlanta.

    Do you have anything in Canada that is the equivalent to the black lives matter movement? How inclusive is Canada, in your opinion?

    Why do you think so many people live in this…[Read more]

  • @Ginaive seen this before, it Is certainly a good one. one thing we are talking about now is how most people don’t realize intersectionality.

  • @immortal_pirate this particular graphic, I came up with from the Kent School of Social Work. However, some of the ideas I like to discuss come from books.

    is all of life not “just living it”? does it make a difference if we Read a book, or construct a banjo or watch the walking dead? What is your criteria for living and not living? I like to…[Read more]

  • I like games that make me laugh.

  • 1.life for me right now is ___________________________________
    2.what I lack in ______________________________, I makeup for in __________________
    3. the biggest problem in the world today is

    • 1.life for me right now is the best it ever has been. It has enough challenges to keep my brain occupied and enough anticipation for “better” to keep me engaged.

      2.what I lack in contentment, I makeup for in acceptance.

      3. the biggest problem in the world today is humanity and its never ending quest to maximize consumption.

      4. a life without social interaction is not worth living

      5. Sundays church sermon will be about conforming to the rules.

      6.Wine only gets better with age.

      7. Ah, Fridays- a day to feel good that tomorrow is Saturday.

    • 1.life for me right now is thee worst ever idyllic utopia!
      2.what I lack in perpetuity, I makeup in my head
      3. the biggest problem in the world today is the sun going from sustaining to non, & super bacteria killing all the doctors before coming for YOU!
      4. a life without skin is not worth living(for me, but you keep going, those without skin(JUST TRUST ME & DON’T LOOK IT UP!!!!!))
      5. Sundays church sermon will be about how clever the God is.
      6. Leftover pizza only gets better with age
      7. Ah, Fridays- a day to gird myself for the stupid weekly mating rituals of the humammals.

    • 1. life for me right now is quite interesting and enjoyable
      2. what I lack in guns, I makeup for in ammo
      3. the biggest problem in the world today is people’s satisfaction with ignorance and low view of truth
      4. a life without Christ is not worth living
      5. Sundays church sermon will be about John 4:21-24
      6. My financial only gets better with age
      7. Ah, Fridays- a day to go out to lunch with my wife

    • 1.life for me right now is —- Not really comfortable. I hate air conditioning and Immortal Pirate used to run it all year, keeping this house so cold that it was chilly all the time. He had an arctic dog at the time, so I kept my complaints silent. Now that dog has died. So, I talked Immortal Pirate into turning off the air conditioning. Now that the weather is getting hot, I bought us a security screen door and a bunch of house fans. It turns out that I cannot sleep with a fan blowing air on me. I am determined to get through as much of this Summer with less air conditioning, more open doors, and fans.

      2.what I lack in — frugality , I makeup for in determination.

      3. the biggest problem in the world today is —- The Liberals fighting against President Trump every step of the way. He knows what he is doing and has a council of experts helping him make strong decisions. Leadership with strength seems to be working. He is keeping all of his promises and doing everything he said he would. But, the Liberals are trying every foul trick they can think of to trip him up. He goes right on and gets the job done in spite of them. If Trump found a cure for cancer, Liberals would protest it. If Trump promised clean breathable air for everyone, the Liberals would be all for not breathing.

      4. a life without —- Popcorn and tacos is not worth living.

      5. Sundays church sermon will be about —- I don’t know. I don’t belong to a religion that preaches sermons. I have not heard a sermon since I was 12 years old, and even then I did not listen to them. But, Immortal Pirate gave a sermon the other day, about not coming up behind him, lifting up his t-shirt and shoving a pint of ice cream into the small of his back. I feel honored that he called me “Jesus”, along with a whole lot of cuss words. He made me apologize. —– I guess we can’t be playful in this relationship.

      6. Enjoyment of simple things only gets better with age.

      7. Ah, Fridays- a day to — bring in the recycle blue can and put it back in the garage. Otherwise, it is just another day.

    • 1.life for me right now is good.
      2.what I lack in influence, I makeup for in my indomitable will to convince you that I’m right.
      3. the biggest problem in the world today is the arrogance of the left.
      4. a life without oxygen is not worth living
      5. Sundays church sermon will be about our intolerance of other religions because we are under the assumption that we’ve cornered the market on salvation and if you don’t believe as we do then you’re wrong and you’re going to hell…which is why I don’t associate with organized religion.
      6. My immortality only gets better with age
      7. Ah, Fridays- a day to retrieve the recycling bin from the street so the fucking H.O.A. doesn’t send me a nasty-gram threatening me with a silly fine for leaving my blue bin out longer than is allowed under their stupid rules.

  • Please see the graphic below.
    Are you able to recognize the cycle of socialization in your own life?
    Do you recognize the ways you are privileged? And the ways you are oppressed? These two things can

    • Seems like an accurate description of the way things are.

      I see how I am an active participant in the social system to be who I am, however, I see also that I have recognized the exit ramp and maybe even taken a few concrete steps to see the view from that perch.

      I think the biggest issue affecting the masses, in any societal construct, is the concern about what happens if we just think and act for ourselves. Will the entity that we purely are, survive in a society that is populated by automatons.

      I was recently invited to Atlanta for a business function. I’ve been there several times.Its a beautiful city with so much to offer. But, I turned it down.

      The very first thought I had was danger. I have lost all desire to cross into a country that has enough signs that it is dangerous, which is not offset enough by the many awesome things that truly make experiencing the US a truly wonderful place to be.

      I think the overriding issue is that I perceive that a society exists that seems different to mine. Enough so that it makes me feel insecure to leave my cocoon of what I have perhaps been brainwashed to believe is a safer society.

      Our sense of security…anywhere…is what brings our tribes together. Safety in numbers.

      Yesterday at about dusk, we went for a dog walk. We got to a point where we heard a pack of coyotes yipping up a storm. We turned around to head back to the sanctuary of our home.We didn’t run. We just turned around, with the idea that returning to refuge was better than a potential confrontation. Isn’t that an exact parallel to why we, as humans, seek refuge in adapting to the idea that society is safer than going at it alone?

      Maybe one of the biggest differences in our two very similar societies is how we see it being organized for our sense of safety. I think we trust that democracy actually works and we don’t need a back up plan like a 2nd Amendment. Maybe that influential caveat is enough to shape a society by removing one fear of consequence from how the rest of the organization evolves? We have less murders per capita. We have less imprisoned per capita. We have less conflicts globally and when we hear coyotes, we turn around and head home, rather than turn to a weapon and “take care” of the problem.

      Both are just very different ways to try to feel safer.

      • @Spitfire3dC thank you for your thoughtful and well-put response. Atlanta is indeed a beautiful city. Sadly, there is a lot of homelessness in downtown Atlanta.

        Do you have anything in Canada that is the equivalent to the black lives matter movement? How inclusive is Canada, in your opinion?

        Why do you think so many people live in this cycle for so long? Do you think the easiest thing is to do nothing? to not question? to say, oh well, its been this way for x amount of years, no use changing it now?

        • @Scarlett Regarding inclusivity; take a look at this paragraph written by the American former coach of our NBA team, who was just fired

          “Thank you for teaching our all-American family the Canadian way. That being polite and considerate to one another is always the best way. That diversity is something to be embraced and celebrated.”

          Multi-culturism is just the way things are here.

          I think people live in the cycle because we fear. That simple. The perhaps more complicated issue is that very few know it and are actually afraid to understand it. The old adage, “the best defense is a good offense” IS the American Way.

          For sure, the easiest thing is to do nothing, but who says easy is best? I’m not sure you can shift a momentum that is based on the primal nature of fear coupled with the fact that truth is an issue of perspective. We believe what we want to believe. We search out evidence that supports what we already believe, rather than that which supports an oppositional belief.

          When a society reaches a point of believing they are all powerful (Incas, Egyptians, The Third Reich, America…), it is the beginning of the end. The society crashes. Some have literally completely disappeared.

          This is the thing that gets me; We have people that study the issues. They teach the related lessons. They understand why things crash and yet, we don’t act in ways that will avoid the decline. Why? Fear on one side with the masses and power on the other side of the few that understand how to manage that fear for personal gain. The combination of fear, power, greed are all inherent characteristics of humanity. Society can’t change. It just adjusts around those negative dynamics and I think all we can really do is try to make our own sanctuaries different because we know its inherently right.

          We can try to teach our children to be brave, but to be brave in the face of fear being managed by those we trust to lead, is an incredibly challenging task.

    • Fox&Friends sees this for what it really is.
      THE WAR ON CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Interesting. Bobbie Harro’s Cycle of Socialization. What a bunch of liberal socialist nonsense you’re getting into.

      As a woman, what systems, do you perceive, are keeping you down?

    • I can barely read that small printing, but life just flows when you don’t over-think it. I am not into overthinking everything I do or don’t do. I do what feels right for me at the time.

    • Where do you come up with this psycho-babble drivel? Stop over thinking life and just live it.

      • @immortal_pirate this particular graphic, I came up with from the Kent School of Social Work. However, some of the ideas I like to discuss come from books.

        is all of life not “just living it”? does it make a difference if we Read a book, or construct a banjo or watch the walking dead? What is your criteria for living and not living? I like to ask questions and talk about ideas, and yes, I like to think. Do I lock myself in a room and do nothing but worry? heavens no. I go to grad school, I work, I help raise a child, I spend time with my own college age children, I laugh, I dance, I make love, I cook, I walk, I play tennis, I do mundane tasks, I visit the creek, the river, the mountains, the forest, I hike. It appears that my questioning nature offends you. I thought thats what this site was for, to ask questions and talk about ideas. maybe I was wrong about that.

        • @Scarlett It doesn’t offend me. Why do people think something offends someone simply because someone disagrees with it. You do ask some very intelligent questions here, but some times they seem a bit “out there”. Perhaps this was one of those times. Pie charts and graphs are fine in a class room, but they don’t exactly relate well with reality. When egg heads try to put life into diagrams and charts in an attempt to explain why things are the way they are, it loses something in translation.
          So here’s a meme (not a chart) to show that I too can use graphics to explain it…

    • Here is an exercise that visually shows what privilege is.

      In a video posted by Buzzfeed, several people are asked a series of questions and then told to either step forward or backward if the question applies to them. The questions were based on an exercise created by social activists Margo Adair and Sharon Howell.

      Each question asks the participants whether or not they enjoy certain privileges or endure different disadvantages.

      “I think when you can represent it visually like this and so immediately, it definitely takes a new form,” said one of the participants.

      Watch the video above to see what happened.

      • @Ginaive seen this before, it Is certainly a good one. one thing we are talking about now is how most people don’t realize intersectionality.

  • Scarlett commented on the post, Patterns 1 week, 5 days ago

    @five2one I believe we have dna dating back to the first human. my patterns are in choosing the same people over and over

  • Pain is real. Suffering b is optional

  • I got my bachelors in social work when I was 22 years old. I felt like I learned more in the year after graduation in my first social work “job” than I did the entire time I was in school. I always had a yearning to go back, though. Despite wanting to go back , myself and others were saying I couldn’t. Then a year and a half ago, someone told me I…[Read more]

  • Do you notice certain patterns in your life?
    what are they?’
    why do you think you have these patterns?
    are they good, bad, or neutral?
    Do you desire to change the patterns?
    how will you do that?

  • think back to your childhood to one of your favorite toys-
    share from the toy’s perspective what happened? what is the story of the toy, why was it left behind?

    • My Johnny 7, One Man Army. It really was one of my toys that I will never forget.

      My owner grew up and abandoned me because he didn’t need a gun any more to feel like he was in charge any more. He developed an attitude of managing his situations without assault weapons.

    • My Teddy-Bear might be in the closet, might not. He was with me since I was a baby. My dad made me throw him away, but I think I hid him in the closet. I’m afraid to look and not find him.

    • This little blue motorcycle man. Well, it looked like a motorcycle helmet in a way. Maybe some space trooper? Not sure. Just called him Blue Man. There was a point though that I felt I was getting too old for all of that. Told my two friends they could smash him if they want. Kind of cried afterwards. Kind of regretted it, even now actually.

    • While not what Others would call a toy, i collected rocks. Found a half of a quartz node. Polished it up, but because of its size, couldn’t really keep it in the house… so i deposited it back outside in the dirt. Can’t find it anymore. Wonder if someone found, took it.

    • Red Ryder BB-gun. I was 10 years old when I sent in Cheerios box tops and my allowance to buy it. Knowing that Mom would not let me have boy’s toys, I was careful to catch the UPS man delivering it and to hide it in my brother’s closet. I loved target shooting and playing “War” with the neighborhood boys.

      My owner prized me above all other toys. In those first years I had to hide in her brother’s closet and her brother used me to shoot birds in the back yard. I was the only toy to go with my owner everywhere she lived, except when she lived in Germany and I was left in the care of her brother. When she came back, I have always had a place in her living room and I am used to chase away stray cats that get in the yard. We don’t shoot stray cats anymore because we live with a man who feeds and cares for strays. I am always ready for target shooting and I have a place in the living room hanging out with swords and a really cool cane. I am always kept in good condition. I have been owned by Barbara for 61 years and I will always be with her. I am the toy who is never left behind.

    • @spitfire3dc, @jear77, @yin,@luftballooneyegouge, @ladybarbara these stories made me feel rather sad

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