Great thoughts, @mistral , you are owning this thread. @Socratess, I’m not the most mentally stable person myself, and many in my social circle suffer from problems that they have varying degrees of success with. A couple of things I’ve found it’s good to think of: 1) Whether they are trying to fix themselves or not, *I* sure as hell can’t fix anyone, and 2) even if they’re not trying to fix themselves, what effect does their company have on me? This may be controversial, but people in broken places can still be great and worthy company, and even a good influence in your life. Can you sit down and talk to them without whatever problem they have immediately interfering? Do they bring you joy in some ways, despite your concern for them? Do they never seek to blame or even shift responsibility for their problems onto you? Those people are good ones to support (not fix). If your friendship is enough for them in and of itself, I’d say those are the people who have a decent chance of dragging themselves out of whatever hole they are in, and remembering you fondly for visiting them while they were down there.