In my opinion premarital sex is a must. If you don’t know what you like in bed then you don’t know if you’re gonna have satisfying sex in marriage, and sex is what differentiates romance from platonic relationships. There’s nothing romantic relationships offer that you can’t find in platonic ones other than sex. You can be emotionally vulnerable with your best friend, and if you feel you can’t then you can find a new best friend or get over yourself and change that. You can get hugs from family or friends. Cuddling? Well that’s just an extension of the continuum of romantic or sexual behavior.

Premarital sex means you don’t need to learn from your spouse. It means you’re just as pure as you would’ve been before. It means you can recognize abusive behavior and may be more comfortable saying no. It means it won’t be painful with your SO and you’ve found the lubes and condoms that work best for you.

What’s the point of saving for marriage that which should be done early and often?

It’s the monogamy and duration of marriage that makes it sacred, not the presence of sex. Even if only during he engagement process sex is still prudent.

If not, why? What’s your take?




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  1. immortal_pirate 2 months ago

    I’m no expert, but having sewn my wild oats…the population of several third world countries has been increased exponentially.

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      Squirrel 2 months ago

      @immortal_pirate now imagine what would happen if we gave out condoms and birth control? What if contraception was treated as a human right? Logistics and cost aside, would you feel the same way? Forget pregnancy because that’s avoidable and preventable and sometimes understandably reversible. What other than pregnancy makes you choose the side you do?

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    • Tits McGee 2 months ago

      @immortal_pirate

      wow so funny – probably half the kids locked up away from their parents are yours?

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      • immortal_pirate 2 months ago

        @Tits McGee No, they were mostly Asians…and maybe a few Africans, and quite a few Europeans, with the strong likelihood of a few Brits. None south of the border though, I was never there long enough to plant any seeds. A sailor does what a sailor does…and it was easy to lose count of the American women. Someone had to keep the wives of the colonials content while their hubby’s were at Valley Forge.

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      • Tits McGee 2 months ago

        @immortal_pirate

        how many were men? i bet you’ve had your little love makings with your fellow seamen (pun intended). it gets lonely and cold on those ships. bodys pushed together, the smell of sweat and testosterone, melding into a musk you just cant say no to. youre not called seamen for nothing

        just to be clear, you prefer the yellow man, the black man, the white man, but no brown skins? why is that?

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  2. ladybarbara 2 months ago

    Results not conclusive. Still running experiments in an 8 year committed relationship that is still premarital.

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  3. Raven Stone 2 months ago

    Premarital sex is a social construct which I think hinges on the belief system of those involved. I say do what feels right and what you think you can live with afterwards.

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      Squirrel 2 months ago

      Love it!

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    • Tits McGee 2 months ago

      @Raven Stone

      “a social construct which I think hinges on the belief system of those involved” –

      you mean do what you want?

      don’t need to try to sound intelligent

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  4. Scarlett2 2 months ago

    There’s actually some new research out that says that a lot of the issues that people have stem partially from repressing sexual urges in their youth. I think it is up to the individual, really. it depends on the person’s needs. I can’t imagine most people having a need not to have sex, though. Premarital sex is something that religious people tell their children not to do.

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      Squirrel 2 months ago

      @Scarlett2 vaginismus though and PTSD are both reasonable causes for a need not to have sex. Also not wanting to, your SO being denied as part of protest, or having an sti.

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