In my opinion premarital sex is a must. If you don’t know what you like in bed then you don’t know if you’re gonna have satisfying sex in marriage, and sex is what differentiates romance from platonic relationships. There’s nothing romantic relationships offer that you can’t find in platonic ones other than sex. You can be emotionally vulnerable with your best friend, and if you feel you can’t then you can find a new best friend or get over yourself and change that. You can get hugs from family or friends. Cuddling? Well that’s just an extension of the continuum of romantic or sexual behavior.
Premarital sex means you don’t need to learn from your spouse. It means you’re just as pure as you would’ve been before. It means you can recognize abusive behavior and may be more comfortable saying no. It means it won’t be painful with your SO and you’ve found the lubes and condoms that work best for you.
What’s the point of saving for marriage that which should be done early and often?
It’s the monogamy and duration of marriage that makes it sacred, not the presence of sex. Even if only during he engagement process sex is still prudent.
If not, why? What’s your take?