I thought about this for a while, and realized that right now, today, there is really only one person in my life that I trust. That person is my daughter. My daughter is nineteen now! Wow how the time has flew. We have had a good relationship most of her life, but in the last few years, our relationship has grown to be really healthy. My daughter is self and other aware, and kindhearted. I think these are the traits that make her trustworthy to me. Of course while she is trustworthy to me , she may not be trustworthy to others. It causes me to wonder, does trustworthiness equate to who is psychologically safe for us?




14 Comments

Leave a response

You must be to post a response.

  1. ladybarbara 12 months ago

    I trust Immortal Pirate. He is honest and sincere with me. He is trustworthy.

    I have a cousin Sue-Sue that I have known for 69 years (all of her life) that I trust. Sue always has my back, and I have hers. She is wise and compassionate. Sue-Sue has brothers and my favorite is Bobby. Of all my cousins, Bobby is the most like me. He sees the best in people. When Donald Trump was first running for office, I saw the kind of man that other women on here see in him. However, Bobby had Trump as a boss where he works, and Bobby had a lot of good stories about how it was to work in a warehouse owned by Trump. It helped me see the good side and I see that good side every time our President does what we voted him in office to do. Bobby and I high-five every day on topics. Well, 3 people in my life are totally trustworthy.

    Reply

    You must be to vote.

  2. griz 12 months ago

    I trust everyone to be 100% human.

    That means knowing myself what it is like to be human, shadow and all.

    I think you make a good point about who is “safe” to your psychology. And I’ve found that this “expands” with the effective application of Christ’s teachings. I can both forgive, and heal. And this gives me a very strong psychological base.

    How strong?
    I guess I’ll see. The next while is going to be a challenge.
    But my life to date has given me lots of exercise in overcoming challenge.

    Reply

    You must be to vote.

  3. immortal_pirate 12 months ago

    I trust Lady Barbara.
    I trust God.
    I trust Jesus.
    I trust my children.
    I trust the U.S. Postal Service, which by the way is the only legitimate government agency. All other government agencies, departments, or entities are private corporations serving one client; The Federal Government which is also a corporation. If you don’t believe it, look it up.
    I DO NOT trust the Federal Reserve Bank or the Internal Revenue Service as they are private corporations that only serve their own interests.

    Reply

    You must be to vote.

    • griz 12 months ago

      @immortal_pirate
      Well just remember to leave a good treasure map to where your booty is buried (I said “booty”!) just in case your good SS friends might outlive you!

      Reply

      You must be to vote.

    • griz 12 months ago

      @immortal_pirate
      You don’t want to end up like Cousin Eddie (Lampoon Vacation series) digging up the desert looking for your vast fortune buried in jars and cans because your treasure map was lacking!

      Reply

      You must be to vote.

    • Author
      Scarlett 12 months ago

      @immortal_pirate is taxation theft?

      Reply

      You must be to vote.

  4. Yin 12 months ago

    There is no one I trust fully. We are humans. We are faulty. Priests, cops, firefighters, doctors: all sound pretty trustworthy, but they have shown on many occasions that they are also human. Some of them hurt others for their own pleasure. I think society makes me more distrusting of the people around me. I’m not super paranoid and feel everyone is going to do me wrong, but I’m not really surprised if people do things to hurt me or take things from me. I more or less play along until they make their mistake.

    Reply

    You must be to vote.

    • griz 12 months ago

      @Yin
      I think any of us, given the right motivation, can hurt others for our own pleasure.

      It probably doesn’t look like that to us at the time, but it is the net effect.

      My personal supposition is that when others “make their mistake”, if we don’t let it spin out too negatively on us, is theirs to own and live down. I truly believe that time wounds all heels.
      In a way, I sort of count on it.

      Because in my study of psychology to date, I’m learning that people almost never get away scott-free with intentional predations upon others. Especially those still operating on a level of some degree of trust.

      Reply

      You must be to vote.

      • Yin 12 months ago

        @griz I know a little too well the feeling of hurting others for pleasure. I’ve felt that. That is part of the whole Yin and Yang thing for me. In the moment because of certain conditions, it felt great. After, I wanted to harm myself for hurting someone like that and felt like scum for liking it. I’ve remained friends with those that I have hurt and they have forgiven me, but I can’t forgive myself. It needs to haunt me so maybe I never do it again. So, yea, I understand how human it is, but I also understand that people who run into such issues need to put it on a leash, whether that be medication, therapy, or even just mental strength.

        Reply

        You must be to vote.

      • griz 12 months ago

        @Yin
        My personal experience is that I can dial back on the “not forgiving myself” if I transmute it into a powerful enough life-lesson that it can serve similar purpose, without the haunting.

        This is part of why I’m so driven to spin even the darkest things from my past and present, into powerful positive lessons. My friends sometimes tell me it can be a bit insufferable in it.

        But that for me, is “the leash”.

        Oh, and there’s another dynamic at work. If everyone else has forgiven us and we refuse to forgive ourselves, it devalues the gift of forgiveness everyone else has seen fit to bestow upon us.
        I find that even this self-forgiveness can become a “strengthening of the leash” unto not doing the same again. If we keep beating ourselves up, self-loathing process can kick in.

        And it can in time, drag us back into a lot of old behaviors for the sake of some psychological self-flagellation.

        Reply

        You must be to vote.

    • Author
      Scarlett 12 months ago

      @Yin I think I know what you mean. For example, in the past, when I got into relationships, I would have a tendency to idealize the person. Now, I recognize , this person is human, and with that comes a history and range of emotions. I feel like a person can be trustworthy, and then something can happen in their internal world that causes them to be externally not trustworthy. I feel like It is strongly correlated to being a safe person, and I feel like we all have to strive daily to be safe, but some people don’t know what that is.

      Reply

      You must be to vote.

      • Yin 12 months ago

        @Scarlett The only relationship I have been in dissolved partly because of that. I always felt that I never really trusted people, but I let that one person in. The person would do some amazing things to make me feel safe and that I could trust them, but then they’d lie about the dumbest things right to my face and make me believe some of the wildest crap. Once I learned from that, it just went downhill. They probably weren’t trusting either, given the lies and crazy stories. We’re still friends, but that stuff comes back to “haunt” me from time to time.

        Reply

        You must be to vote.

  5. five2one 12 months ago

    God.

    Spiritual people who have the Name of God on them.

    People who see the ‘face of God’, know God’s will.

    Doesn’t mean I trust them on everything, because they tend to be very sarcastic and indirect.

    Otherwise, I trust different people, on different levels. Generally, I work in security, so that is a ‘no trust’ environment, but you have to work out what people can be trusted with, and what they can not be trusted with. For instance, somebody can generally be trusted not to drink something they know is flesh eating acid.

    I can trust someone who is proven good at something to do it well, with accepting human fallibility.

    I can trust someone who has certain preferences to have a tendency to believe something according to those preferences.

    And, so on, and so on.

    On this question: “It causes me to wonder, does trustworthiness equate to who is psychologically safe for us?”

    I tend to be very wary of people whom I know may not be psychologically and emotionally safe for me — but that can also describe my family and closest friends.

    That is something one balances.

    People who have put me through hard psychological and emotional tests which have improved me, are the same who have strong spiritual ties to me, and are able to prove to me that.

    So, strong spiritual ties, is people I trust.

    But, obviously, that does not mean, there are time periods where I feel my trust is at a low with them, or need for them to show me I can trust them again. That is how relationships of any substance work.

    Reply

    You must be to vote.

©2019 Soul Sequel | All Rights Reserved

 
or

Log in with your credentials

or    

Forgot your details?

or

Create Account